He’s 29, and she 22. They have 6 kids between them – 3 from his earlier marriage, 2 from her earlier one, and 1 from theirs, conceived and born before they’re even married. Amazing. I’m close to 30, and I’m not even married yet!
Even though this is like far removed from my life and the lives of the people around me, I can’t help but suspect that this is not a case in isolation. I’ve heard of stories. And statistics don ‘t lie. Afterall, don’t we have the distinction of having the highest divorce rates, highest teenage pregnancies, highest I donno wat else? So I don't think I’m wrong if I say there are many families like that out there.
Donno. Am feeling kinda helpless. I complain abt my life and my work sometimes. But what abt the lives of these others? They seem so helpless, their situation so hopeless. Her death is a tragedy waiting to happen. One consolation tho…she’s now in heaven for being the innocent small girl that she was…
Education is key to getting out of the trap. With education, anything’s possible. Yes there’s subtle discrimination out there, but if you’re educated you can at least be guaranteed of a leg up in life. But education’s not the only ingredient in one’s recipe for success. Upbringing and discipline is important too. In fact, could they be more important than education? Perhaps, but that’s a chicken and egg thingy.
You can be dirt-poor and still lead a respectable life, free from the problems of broken marriages, jail terms, teenage pregnancies and the like. You’re dirt-poor, but happy.
But how do we ensure that we give our kids the proper upbringing? How much discipline is too much? It’s scary thinking of the many responsibilities suddenly thrust onto you once you become a parent.
Once the wedding’s over, I’ll have to start thinking of my married life ahead. And that should include having kids. But am I even mature enough to have kids? Am I psychologically prepared to have one?
Funny how nearly-30 me is having thoughts over this, when out there mere girls already have kids of their own.
may we be saved
Wednesday, March 08, 2006 at 11:58 PM
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5/4/06 11:38 AM
hi hi.. guess i could be the first to post a comment -- or rather sharing..
recently i found out that one of my Sec 4T class has already given birth last year -- that makes her a mom at age 14 or 15?? she hardly attends school this year too and is doing quite poorly in all subjects. the only common topic of conversation between us is that she's curious about my baby ;p
a few days later, she was called to the office by another teacher with her mom. mom was ever ready to confide in me saying that she's too difficult to handle. before the mom could say a word more -- the mom was sternly 'ordered' by the student to stop talking to me and move away. mom sheepishly moved away..
hmnn, i cannot begin to imagine how her family is...
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