Was admitting rather sheepishly some time back to a good friend that I wasn’t being much of a friend to her and the rest of the gals back when they were preparing for their big day. I didn’t help in their wedding preps…at all. We didn’t hold any hen parties. I didn’t sleep over. And in the case of F, I didn’t even join in her bertandang (gasps!).
And although she was mighty miffed at me for that, she admitted that she didn’t exactly pitch in to help her friends either. She pointed out that perhaps we were too caught up with the westernized idea of girlfriends pitching in to help each other out for their big days. According to her, they had to do that cos, over there, they don’t exactly have the privilege of having their extended family close by to help out. Friends were therefore very important in ensuring that the big day goes along fine.
It made sense when she puts it like that. Our aunties, uncles, cousins – the whole big gang, are overly eager to chip in with the wedding preps, and it doesn’t seem nice to refuse them. So by the time our friends come into the picture, they’ll usually be left with nothing to do. Hence, I’ve been a spectator to my friends’ weddings. And hence, they’re spectators to my preps now.
Not that I mind. I’m fine with it actually. So what’s the point of this entry? Hehhhe I’m not exactly sure.
Anyways, you gals are always welcome to chip in with the wedding preps anytime you want, that is, provided the tasks haven’t been snapped up by my over-eager relatives :P
And hey, even if you don’t, you’re no lesser a friend to me yah!
we the spectators
puasa-ing
and before i forget...
it's only the 3rd day still, so i guess it's not too late yet. selamat berpuasa everyone!
taking leave
Second entry today to make up for the lack of entries these last couple of days
So anyway, I’m facing a problem. A happy problem actually, but a problem nonetheless.
Thing is, I’ve got 15.5 days of annual leave left from last year which I’ve not consumed yet. And I absolutely have to consume them by end of this year, otherwise they’d all be wiped out. Then, I just found out that we’re given 7 working days of marriage leave. Not calendar days mind you. WORKING days. Add to that is the holiday off in lieu that we’ll be getting for deepavali, since it falls on a Saturday. This means that all in, I have 23.5 days of leave to clear, all by end of the year. And I haven’t even included my 21 days leave entitlement for this year, which can be carried forward to next year. Happiness!!
BUT! I cant find the time to clear them all. Been staring at my calendar for the rest of the year, and it’s filled up with work deadlines and work events which simply cant be skipped. Here’s the plan for my leave so far:
Week before wedding – 5 days
After wedding leave till the end of the year – 9 days
Hari Raya leave – 3 days
Which still leaves me with 6.5 days of leave to clear. Hmmmmmm
I think I’ll have to take leave here and there..whenever the opportunity arises lah. Otherwise theres no way I can clear them all.
I’ll start with this Friday then. Yeehah!
and hady has won!
To be honest, I didn’t think he could make it. Though he was better vocally throughout the competition, I’ve always thought he looked a bit stoned out. His face was expressionless. And before the finals, jonathan was the better performer. He owned the stage (though his voice sucked at times). Then there was the race factor – how people might not want another malay to be the idol, after taufik.
But!
Hady was spectacular at the finals. He gave me goosebumps..especially after the first and second performance (wasn’t too crazy with the third tho…thot the official song suck to begin with lah). Gone were his glazed looks. His energy level was way high. He totally outperformed himself this time.
He totally deserved my 6 bucks!
bawah blok kan lebih meriah
The plan was for us to book the cc near my place for the whole weekend, his on saturday and mine on sunday. That plan had to be scrapped tho. My parents preferred having mine at the void deck, lebih meriah they said. The majlis is as much theirs as mine (think their invites outnumber mine 10 to 1 ah!), so I left it at that lah. Whatever.
He still wanted to go ahead with having his at the cc though. So we made enquiries early early on. Found out that booking can only be made 3 months before the date.
Btw, these CCs work in strange ways. We were told that booking the hall cost abt $1,100 for members, and abt $1,900 for non-members. But hey, you can be a member for a grand sum of $10! Hahha. Why don’t they just say…non-members pay $1,110, inclusive of membership fees? I wonder if there are goondus out there who still insist on paying $1,900 cos they don’t wanna be members. Hmmmmm
So spider called them up again the other day, just to try his luck. Went through the whole member non-member thingy again. And then he gave the lady on the phone the date, asked her to check if it’s available. She said “wait ah, must check the book”. After checking the book, she said “sorry ah, that date cannot”. And he said “alamak. got people book already isit?”. And she said “no lah. hall close from October to December. Got renovation.”
And she needed the book to tell her that?!?
So now, no cc for me, and no cc for him too. Hahha! We’ll have mine at my void deck. And his at the mph at his sis’.
Oh have I mentioned that lift upgrading works are about to start on my block? They’ve already started digging up tons of earth, apparently for some re-piping works. Just great.
accident revisited
saw the sign "accident lane 1 near paya lebar exit" on my way home on the pie an hour ago. so was expecting some form of delay when we approached the accident site. what we were not expecting was the sight of a body of a dead man lying sprawled on the road still.
granted the coroner or the csi (s'pore's version of it) was probably not on the scene yet, so the policemen who were there probably did not want to do anything to 'contaminate' the scene. but the least they could do was to cover the body, or at least form a protective shield around it. not so much to protect the sensibilities of us passerbys, but to protect the dignity of the victim.
was instantly reminded of the scene that fateful day in may of my cousin sprawled on the road. the accident supposedly happened close to 6 in the morning. we were at the scene at 7plus in the morning. and his body was still lying there, for all and sundry to see (and gawk and ask insensitive qns and gossip like the kepo singaporeans that we are).
why couldnt the police form a barricade around the body? why not form a human shield, so that curious passerbys would have nothing to see and gossip about? and why did it take so bloody long to process the scene, collect the body and bring it to the morgue?
yes the victim is dead. but shouldnt there be urgency in tending to the dead? while the one still alive was rushed to hospital asap, the one already dead was left sprawling on the road for more than 2 hours. shouldnt there be respect for the dead too?
it just occured to me that i've not passed that road ever since the accident. not ever. either it's a coincidence, or a deliberate effort of the drivers (dad, spider, me) to avoid it. the image of his sprawling body is still fresh in my head though. but i also have images of him in his cheerful corny self. and these help to keep me, keep us who were there at the scene, sane. he's in our prayers still, may Allah bless his soul..
i wonder how long the body of that poor man had been lying there on the pie. i hope it's brought to the morgue already.
going vege | shit
How do you propose to lose weight if you keep indulging yrself like this?
I had the rice meal set for dinner on tuesday. The full works. Always indulged myself everytime I’m at komalas. Deluded myself by thinking its vegetarian. But it’s not very healthy once all the sauces are included is it? :P
(the other 2 trays were spider's btw..hahha!)
Yesterday I was involved in some seriously pointless shit. I felt so privileged to be given the honour. Bleah!
i feEEeel good
Those who know me will know that I’m a berms and tshirt person. Out of work, I rarely wear anything else. And when I’m at work, I wear boring looking tops and pants. Used to be that I wore skirts to work, but my growing derriere has made fitting into those skirts impossible, and I’m just too lazy to buy new skirts. Come to think of it, I’ve not bought new pants for more than a year too (or maybe two? gasps!)! Just too lazy. Of course there’ll be the occasional forays into shopping malls to look for that perfect bottom, but it seems that nothing fits me anymore. I’m short and reasonably thin, but with a humungous butt. So it’s impossible to fit into size S pants. And M size pants are just too big. So what’s a girl to do? Don’t shop lor..
Of late though I’ve been wearing outfits I normally wouldn’t wear, be it for work or leisure. (god knows why I bought those outfits in the first place!) And I realized that hey, I actually look good in them. Those dresses which I thought were just too girly/dressy/colourful for work ended up getting me a few compliments from people at work. And when I started pairing off long-forgotten tops with my jeans, I actually look good, to the point that I think I’m gorgeous! (ok ego trip here)
The thing is, when you feel good about what you’re wearing, you’ll feel good about everything else too. Suddenly there’s a lift to your steps. You stand just that lil bit taller. Your shoulders are pushed just that lil bit more to the back. You’ll start thinking you look good. And guess what, you do look good to others! It’s all about positive vibes babe! When people see that you’re happy, when people see that you act like as if you’re the most beautiful person around, automatically they’ll be influenced to think that way of you too. It’s infectious!
So I’ve decided to be a bit more vain and try to put in a lil bit more effort into my dressing. I love feeling good about myself these past few days. I love getting compliments from people. And I so love making spider think that he’s the luckiest man around for having me ..hehhe! Well of cos he’s already lucky to have me cos I’m intelligent, articulate, funny and understanding. But add drop-dead gorgeous to the mix and he’ll be hooked to me for life! Kuakuakuakuakuakua
Ok you can start vomiting now :P