When it comes to an event as big and as important as a wedding, people close to you (and those not so close) are bound to be offering their advice and comments on practically everything. From the duit hantaran to the hantaran gifts to the wedding deco and the food and the bedroom furniture and the bedroom décor and the mak andam and the clothes you wear – nothing is safe.
Relatives have sky-high expectations of the coming wedding. So they can’t understand when my duit hantaran is a supposedly lowly figure, not of ‘market-rate’ for grads. They can’t understand when an unknown, non-branded mak andam is chosen for the wedding. They can’t understand when we choose to be laissez-faire with the wedding, and not go over the top with expenses. They don’t understand all that. What they understand is that this is a grad marrying a grad…so our wedding MUST be grand! And so when I disappoint them in this aspect, they make comments (jokingly they might add), but comments which when heard are hurtful still.
There are many things to your wedded life than the wedding. The wedding is just the start – there’s still the marriage and your years together as a couple to look forward to. There’ll be many many many occasions to spend on, and spending a bomb on a wedding just does not make sense.
One should be praised for being practical instead of ridiculed for being thrifty. Forget the praise – just be happy for us. Share in the joy. Pray that our marriage will last, our years together happy ones.
I must learn to be deaf to people’s comments.
i must learn to be deaf to people’s comments
that night wif a Star
We got invites to a party last Friday.
And we decided to go cos of the deliciously dreamy, and superbly talented ryan star of rockstar supernova fame. Spider had been following the show religiously, choosing to follow this talent show rather than the sometimes yawn-inducing singapore idol show, which was also shown on Wednesday nights. I was hooked on from the later episodes, and ryan (and toby!) were my favourites right from the start. Hands up those who were disappointed with the eventual winner – Lukas? Anyways, I suppose things turned out well for ryan in the end, cos he got to pursue a solo career (which he’s so suited for) and fans love him already (he’s rockstar supernova fan favourite for goodness’ sake!).
Back to the launch party. The 2 male VJs who were hosting the show were great, but the rest of the VJs were just so-so. They didn’t seem to have the presence to hold the crowd, and I thought the only thing going for them were their looks. Like I said, the 2 male VJs hosting the show were great. Little wonder then that they were the ones hosting the show, and not the others.
There were other performers at the party – hady mirza, rivermaya, an ah lian and a rapper prancing about on stage, and paul twohill (not part of the programme, but he was walking here and there, practically working the floor, you’d think he’s part of the show. Oh and he actually went on stage to take part in a game, and the VJs had no inkling as to who he was…hahahhha poor soul).
But it was obvious that the main draw was ryan. His was the last performance of the party, and the wait was worth it cos he was sooooooo meltingly goooOOooooOOOood.
And the best thing of the night was…..we got to take pictures with him! Yeyy!
A bit blur cos it's taken wif the fonecam...but I’m one happy camper :D
vanity part 2 | old & bochap
So it’s not exactly gone according to plan. I didn’t get to the office early enough for the gym – the bed’s just too tempting. But I did work out at the gym during lunch. And yesterday we went for a super brisk walk around the neighbourhood that left us panting for breath, and today I worked out at the gym during lunch again. Nobbad nobbad.
And a friend has proudly told me that she’s lost 5kilos since she started on her exerama! Nobbad at all!
Maybe I shd have a target, like losing at least 2 kilos? Heeee
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I have been contacting my jc friends to ask for their mailing addresses. It seems that weddings are the only occasions where we can meet and catch up. And 3 of my guy classmates are already fathers! They’re Chinese males mind you (I only mention this cos usually malays tend to marry earlier than their non-malay counterparts), and we’re considered young still (we’re in our 20s waat), so I was surprised when I found out. Then again I really shouldn’t be, cos I’m the one who’s marrying ‘late’. But then ah, I don’t even feel that I’m marrying ‘late’. I don’t feel old. Mum will always say “macam ni nak kawin?” in exasperation everytime my kiddish behaviour comes to the fore.
Err what’s my point again? Nevermind…
I’m super grateful that my lovely young aunt is doing many of the preps for me cos believe me, I cant be bothered by all these preps myself and everyone’s been on my case for being so bochap! Its frustrating. I’m pretty sure things will fall into place without us going into overdrive, so really guys…cool it. InsyaAllah semua akan berjalan lancar…
vanity
i am finally succumbing to the pressure. yup. have decided that i'll hit the gym again after 3 months of hiatus. as much as i try to be above it all, i have to admit that insinuations that i am fat hurt me just that lil bit.
so... i'll put in a lil bit of work this last month or so to work out a bit. and though i'd love to say i'm doing it all for the pursuit of a healthier me, the sad fact of the matter is that this is all motivated by vanity. yup. even plain old me is vain sometimes. we try to look our best. and though we know that beauty is just skin-deep, we still want to look good anyway. not just to ourselves, but to others too.
i'll try to be at the office earlier today. hopefully i can have at least 30 mins at the gym!
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and hari raya is nearly over. didnt do much visiting this year, but the little that i did is captured here :D
the week
The week started with me watching some strange guys and a lady doing unimaginable things to their body, most specifically their poor legs and that all-important palm.
Had meetings at the gardens and the kopiplace, not exactly your usual suspects for work meetings, but definitely nice.
And to top it off, we had these for lunch today
With breathtaking views
Perched high up in the air
And the best thing was…..it’s all free!
And so tomorrow I’ll be on leave again…for yet another long weekend.
I’m one contented lady :D
black-out
Had a meeting near hsa yesterday, so decided to drop by for this..
This time round, things went smoothly. They managed to poke at the right spot, so there was no bruising. The flow was pretty fast too, and before I knew it I was done. Spent some time at the donors’ lounge with a walnut muffin and a cup of milo, and I was good to go.
It was raining when I left. Funny…it was raining the last time too. But anyways, walked to outram…boarded the train, and cos it was the peak rush hour there were no seats available. I had to stand..nothing new there. The first few stops was ok. But as I was reaching lavender I started to feel like something’s not right with me. Felt kinda drowsy. Had a premonition that I’m gonna collapse if I don’t sit down soon, so was planning to get down at kallang just so I could sit down at the platform bench for a while.
Then before I knew what was happening, I felt my arms seized on either side by 2 men. I had apparently collapsed on the floor (!), and these 2 men were helping me up to a seat vacated by one of them.
The 2 men and the lady seating beside me were really helpful. She kept asking if I was alright. After composing myself, I asked her what had happened. She said I’d collapsed onto the floor, and that the 2 men were helping me to my feet and to the seat. I didn’t even know I’d fallen! It was a total blank-out man. Scary..
This was indeed a lesson in humility. Spider had always told me that he’d feel a bit giddy and nauseous after a donation, and I had always told him that I suffer from no ill-effects whatsoever. Ah..padan muka aku!
I’m ok now. in fact, my “blank-out, not feeling well” stage lasted for a while only. Must be cos I had to stand so long right after the donation. Didn’t happen to me before cos I was either driving (so no need to stand so long) or I was in the office (again, no standing for long). I had loads of water yesterday night, and I slept early. One has to pay due respect to one’s one body aye..
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In other news, we have finally, FINALLY, sent our invites for printing. We got ourselves in a mess over this cos our initial printer played us out, and the few trips to jb we made over the last few days didn’t give us what we wanted. Thank god it’s all settled yesterday. Alhamdulillah……
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In other other news, one of my projects is over. Yeyyy! We went all out after raya to get things done. And funnily enough, I lost weight after raya..and not during puasa. Hahh. Definitely cos of the long hours spent at work, the rushing here and there, and the many meals we cut short (or skipped!) to make sure everything went well. There was one hiccup unfortunately, but in all, things went well.
I hv to present at an event next Monday…but was just told that it was postponed. Yeyy!! Leaves more breathing room for me. Which means I’ll be free to take leave tomorrow :)